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Post by TooShy on Apr 29, 2005 10:34:07 GMT -5
There wasn't enough room on the blog reply to post this so I brought it over here.....
As Steve has pointed out, the adversity and how we deal with it is in our perceptions and in how we CHOOSE to deal with it...
for example: Dr. Victor Frankl, noted Austrian Psychiaatrist, imprisoned in Auschwitz. Wife and children killed by the Nazis. Himself subjected to horrible attrocities at the hands of his captors and absolute and total subjigation by them. He noted in his writings later that in the face of this horrible situation he discovered that there was one very important aspect of his experience that the SS guards could NOT control. You guessed it...They could not force upon him how he would interpret and react to his treatment. He believed that if he died before he could share that realization with the world that his suffering would have been for nothing therefore he CHOSE to percieve his situation as a challenge and this became his commitment to survive.
Now Dr. Frankl was in an incredibly extreme environment and he rose above it. He was in the MOST segregated position it is possible to be. If he can overcome that then the rest of us can get beyond our narrow points of view, our upbringing and circumstances and triumph in our lives here and now.
Just my 2 cents here.
Jenni
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Post by Steven Barnes on Apr 29, 2005 13:56:45 GMT -5
Jenni--
that was worth way, way more than two cents. I've spoken with survivors of abuse and murder attempts, near-death experiences, and concentration camps, read the words of ex-slaves and spoke with those who survived the worst Jim Crow, and was raised on the tail-end of segregation. Rape victims, crash survivors, you name it. There is a commonality between the healthy ones, and they choose to interpret what they went through to empower themselves, and commit to being better people. THAT is what this blog is about. We're all wounded, darling. The only difference is in how we deal with our wounds, our hearts, and each other.
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Post by TooShy on Apr 29, 2005 14:22:11 GMT -5
Having been on the receiving end of one of the attempts to steal power that you speak of I can speak directly to what these things can do to a person. They rob you of your power. Your ability to discern Truth in the world around you. It is only through much discussion, meditation, more discussion and more meditation/prayer that I have begun to come out the other side on that issue and see the 'benefit' if you will.
I have the ability to be truly empathetic to other victims of the same act. I can never be black or asian or native american. I can't see through those eyes. I can, however, understand, with every cell of my being, what it means to have your power taken away in a flash. I believe that it has given me a strenght as well. A resolve that has kept me moving forward, no matter how small the steps have been. Even when some things look and are horribly out of balance, I have been able to provide for my family and nurture my children. Many succumb to despair and cannot manage that.
I have a long ways to go but this has been a BIG step for me. To be able to take that out of it's little box and look at it and find the value in it. As the saying goes, "what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger'. Truth.
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Post by Steven Barnes on May 1, 2005 11:32:02 GMT -5
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger" is, in my mind, ALMOST true. That which does not kill us CAN cripple us. The trick is to keep stress from becoming strain (which cripples or kills). We can do that by balancing our goals (body, mind, spirit), and by having killer stress-coping mechanisms in place (meditation, journaling, exercise, hugs, Five Minute Miracle etc.) If you do, then stress will "peel away the onion" of our self-deception, dispel the illusions, and reveal the path to truth. Hey, even if you see the Stairway to heaven it doesn't mean its easy to climb. It's still gut-grinding effort. But discipline can be joyous. ## I believe that the deeper we go into our own existence, the easier it is to understand the plight of others. Knowing how you have been slighted, say, as a woman, CAN help you to understand racial issues. As having been discriminated against racially can help you to understand age-ist issues. Or class issues. the human condition is the human condition. There is as much or as little difference between us as we choose to see. And WHAT we see says more about us than it does the world outside us. Remember the Matrix: there is no sthingy.
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