Fear Removal Technique

[Steven Barnes]

I was asked to re-post the Fear Removal technique. It works.
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First, learn the Five Minute Miracle's "Be Breathed" technique. Then take it into an aerobic activity that you can perform for at least, say, 30 minutes. Hill walking will do it. "Aerobic" means enough exertion that you can't sing, but you can still talk. You need to be able to go into "second wind"--you know, the perceived exertion level drops, and the exercise starts feeling more like flow state? Invest a few weeks in getting to this level of fitness, if necessary. Usually, this is a simple exercise, using a repetitive, rhythmic motion.
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Now. Sit and Spend ten minutes visualizing/fantasizing about the stressful situation or memory. Bring the fear up in your body. Bring it up until the fear or anger is completely present, until you are crying out of your nose, shaking with emotion. (NOTE: if you are dealing with a serious abuse issue, I would suggest trying this with smaller issues first--don't overwhelm yourself the first time.) Wallow in your misery. Really get into it. Then--IMMEDIATELY go and perform the aerobic activity. At between 14-17 minutes, you should go into second wind. After you do, continue the exercise for another 5-10 minutes, at least. After you finish, stretch, lay down and rest until your heartbeat has returned to normal.
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That's it. A single session of the FEAR REMOVAL PROCESS should drop your adrenal response by 10-20%. You can practise it about twice a week--I wouldn't suggest more than that, because you might anchor too much pain to the process of exercise. This works incredibly well, and can deal with issues that have resisted years of therapy. Read these words repeatedly, and ask questions.
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And to repeat--this is one of the world's Hidden Secrets. Do not underestimate its power.

[Hobbes]

Question: Can you clarify a bit how to do the Be Breathed during a cardio activity? It seems to require quite a bit of concentration and effort to contract your abs and tilt your pelvis while exhaling, in the seated position, for instance - when biking, or running, or whatever, do you just focus a little bit on the exhale, and let the inhale be a little bit more passive?

[Steven Barnes]

Let the inhale be more passive. Let's face it--during an endurance activity (running, walking, biking, rowing) the motion is extremely repetitive. Most people claim that there isn't enough to keep their minds busy--which is why they listen to music or books or quit out of boredom. There's plenty of time to learn form. In fact, unless you are continually refining form, you'll never reach your peak performance, or even approach it. Simple keep considering breath, movement, and structure, and the way the three interrelate, and you'll do fine.

[stormy]

You mentioned that anger masks fear in some way. What if you have anger issuse? You wouldnt cry would you?? Suggestions please..

[Steven Barnes]

People frequently cry when angry! As in a previous post, I would suggest searching for the fear that underlies the anger. You know, I have never in my life been angry about anything where I had nothing to lose. In other words--there was fear there, expressing itself as anger so that I wouldn't feel weak and powerless. Dig deeper.

If you still don't get it, please offer us a specific issue that you feel has no root in fear.

[stormy]

I dont like being mistreated Physically. I can tolerate bad wrods and actions more than a physical attack. I dont like people attacking the ones I love, physically or any other way.

In my family, people express their anger by hitting, punching in the arms or jumping on you, etc. The only person I have ever heard talk about this is Patti LaBelle in her book titled Dont Block the Blessings. This causes me to remove myself from my family. HOWEVER, they find other ways to piss me the **** off. Like steal my car, or Come on to my husband or Call up to my job and cuss out folks.

This is not all of my family. Actually a small subset of family I grew up with on my mother's father's side of the family. Its a lot of them and they seek out a few of us who "made it". It baffles me how they continue to find new ways to act out. Unfortunately, it's not just me they are targeting. If I were to come close to them, it would not be healthy for anyone.

This angers me. I dont have those kinds or relationships with anyone else on the planet. I like to keep to myself. I am 2 shakes shy of putting a restraining order against them. Just writing this brings up feelings of anger.

any thoughts??

Note my husband makes jokes about marrying into the Gotti family..

[Steven Barnes]

Note that an infant hitting you will trigger completely different responses from an adult hitting you. If you have five cars, someone stealing one will have a completely different response than if someone steals your primary transportation. Families are supposed to be sources of support, of love, of safety. When they become sources of pain, it is FRIGHTENING. Look at the expression of betrayal on a child's face when mommy or daddy give an unexpected painful response to a playful gesture. Fear, hon. dig deep. You would love to love and trust your family, but opening your emotions to them is riskier than hell. They will hurt you. Pain and love and fear and anger all wind together.